Nowadays most people have become so selfish and they are adopting negative attitudes towards almost everything and every one including family attachments and relations; thus you can see their hearts have become hollow ,,,they rarely help each others ,,,ask about each others ,,, twenty years ago I have seen this phenomenon in England when I was studying for my postgraduate studies ,,, I was so surprised when one of my professors Mr. Jimmy Smith invited us to his house for tea one day ,,, I saw that the fence of the garden was a three meters height ,,I asked him why was it so high ,,,his answer was so strange , he told me that he does not want to see his neighbor and that he was not been talking to him for forty years ,,,, then he added :
I have to go through another branch way to park my car in order not to see him
I was so surprised ,,, staying long years in England and knowing the English culture , I have realized then that most Europeans not only English nations do not have attachments for their family members ,,, it took a son / daughter / brother / sister ... mother / father one complete year to send a New Year & Christmas card to their parents /siblings /sons / daughters .... I was so surprised at that time to see such cold,,, rigid ,,stiff feelings ,,or at least that was what I thought , I kept telling them how warm we , the people in the east are ,,, I told them how attached to each others we are ,,, how strong bonds we have ,,,, I was so proud of our strong deep love and family relations ,,,
It was only a few years ago when suddenly I , myself , realized how negative attitudes my own family members have to me ,,, I was and still am so loving ,,,caring and kind to each and every one of them ,,, I was always there for them and their children ,,,, BUT alas ,,, where are they ???
They abandoned me ,,, because I am no more a giver ,,, the chicken of gold eggs stopped laying eggs ,,, so every one escaped from her ,,,, that is me ,,, because I am not any more able to give due to my recent circumstances ,,,every one left me ,,,no one asks where am I ,,,how am I ,,,whether I needed anything ,,whether I am dead or alive ,, It is really a very painful feeling when you find yourself rejected ,,, abandoned and neglected ,,,when you were such a generous giver ,,, a loving caring person and then you see those whom you spent a lifetime helping and giving ,,,caring and taking care of, treating you with such negative attitude and ungratefulness,,, ingratitude and negligence ,,,I now think of my English professor Mr. Smith and I realize why had he built such a high wall to avoid seeing his neighbor ,,,BUT can I do this ,,, NEVER ,,, despite all this bad treatment and ungratefulness , you find me still asking about each and every one of them ,,,,I do it for God ,,, for myself and for whom am I ,,,,I can NEVER have negative attitude whatever happens ,,,I just can not and I do not want to ,,,after all- life is too short to do bad ,,,negative deeds ,,,